The Power of Acting Like Who You Wish To Be

Everybody says they want more…

More success.
 More confidence.
 More opportunities.
 More respect.

But very few people are willing to do what actually creates it.

In this episode, Coach John breaks down a truth most people avoid:

You don’t become who you want to be first… you act like them first.

This is not about motivation.
 This is about identity.

It’s about how your daily actions are either building the future version of you… or keeping you stuck exactly where you are.

If you’ve been waiting to feel ready, confident, or “prepared enough” to level up… this episode will challenge that mindset and give you a new standard to live by.

You’ll learn:

•  Why your current habits are shaping your identity (not your goals) 
•  How to shift from outcome chasing to identity building 
•  What it actually looks like to move like the person you want to become 
•  Why discomfort is a sign you're on the right path 
•  How to build confidence through action, not waiting 

This is for athletes, leaders, parents, and anyone serious about growth.

No shortcuts.
No excuses.
Just a standard.

Follow Coach John on IG @gotlust4life

ALL ENERGY IS CONTAGIOUS

Transcript

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What's going on, guys? Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Mining Hours podcast presented by Project Superhero Fit. I'm your host, Coach John. I'm joined by Coach Crystal. Come with us on this transformative journey in which we seek that fitness is inside out. It makes no sense to have a beautiful physique, but an ugly mind, heart, and spirit. Thank you for subscribing and joining each episode. And let's get into this conversation. So, welcome, welcome, welcome back to another episode of the Mind and Hours Podcast. Um, again, uh, if you haven't subscribed, like, comment, share, subscribe, tell a friend about it. Um, we are coming back with the weekly episodes. All right, last week uh we had a very powerful episode. We talked about the village of youth sports. Again, that that topic is very near and dear to our family simply because our daughter is a youth athlete. Um, I'm a youth coach. So if you haven't checked that episode out, go back and check it out. Send it to your favorite athlete, send it to your parents, send it to your favorite coach. Whoever needs to hear it, whoever's involved in youth sports, send it to them so they can, you know, kind of tap in. And, you know, as we did, you know, talked about how the village is no longer existent in youth sports today. So jumping into today's episode, alright, we are going to talk about the power of acting like who you are becoming or acting like who you wish to be. Alright. Most people fail to realize that you you don't have to wait on anything to become who you're becoming or change or or be the person that you wish to be. Everybody wants to be somebody. You know, when we're talking about an athlete, they want to be a better athlete. When we're talking about leaders in the corporate world, they want to be better leaders. When we're talking about parents, coaches, mentors, whoever it may be, everybody wishes to be the better version of themselves. But the fact of the matter, and the the truth that nobody wishes to acknowledge is that you don't become that person first. You have to start acting like that person that you wish to be, to become better or become that better version of yourself. I have a saying that I say all the time to people, and I I tell them that, you know, words say who someone wants to be, but their actions prove who they are. Right? So again, words say who someone wants to be, but their actions prove who they are. And a lot of times, most people are just sitting back waiting on something or someone to push them in that direction of changing or becoming better. Most people are waiting to feel confident, they're waiting to feel ready, they're waiting for some opportunity, but the ones that are really progressing in life and leveling up, they're starting before they're even ready. They're starting before they even you know get that uh certification or license or uh degree or whatever it may have you, they're starting their actions and beginning to act like and speak to themselves and move like the person that they're becoming. And and what's happening is that a lot of us, well, most people don't understand the power in that, right? There's power in acting like who you wish to become. All right, there's an author, uh, some of y'all may know her, some of y'all may not, um, but one of my favorite books, right? The Let Them Theory, uh by Mel Robbins. Um, she's a great speaker, uh, great podcast, great author, you know, best-selling author, things of that nature. But she talks about how when you start acting like who you wish to become, your mind and your brain tells you every day that you're becoming that person. Right? And that's the power in starting before you're ready. That's the power in surrounding yourself around people that are pushing you to be who you wish to be. That's the power in you speaking to yourself in a way that if I knew the version of this person that I'm becoming, what does that look like today? You know, what does that look like right now? You know, and why am I waiting to get to that person? Or why am I waiting for something to push me to be this person that I wish to become? So we're that's what we're gonna talk about this episode. And it's very, very um, it hits home for me simply because a lot of people may not know this, but before I even was certified as a personal trainer or as a coach, a lot of people approached me and say, you know, Coach John, what what made you be a trainer? What made you be a coach? Honestly, I didn't even think I was gonna be a trainer or a coach. It just kind of came naturally when I started on my fitness journey and people started, or you know, potential clients and and and things started asking, and people started asking me questions on how did I do this, or how did you get a six-pack, or how did you build your arms, and how did you lose weight, and things like that. So honestly, it was something that uh I enjoyed, and it was also I would I realized how the fitness journey was changing my mindset and changing my life. So I wasn't even certified for two years while I was training clients, while I was getting opportunities as a personal trainer and a coach. And a lot of people don't even know that or never knew that. But again, I just jumped right into it, you know, head on, because again, it was something that was changing my mind and changing my life. So I wanted to help others change their lives. So I just started telling people, hey, I'm a personal trainer. You know, I'm a coach. I'm a personal trainer, I'm a coach. You know, and when when once I started the personal training, it slowly but surely evolved into this mindset coach and mental strength coach that I've become. And honestly, I'm certified now, uh certified strength and conditioning coach, certified personal trainer, certified uh performance enhancement coach, and certified life coach. So before all of the certifications, I just simply started being a trainer. And I really, really started walking around like a trainer. I started researching things, uh, I started uh giving people advice and basically just fully diving into being a coach and look what it's become. You know, it's become a LLC, a successful LLC business. It's become many opportunities, it's become many clients, many lives changed, and just simply because I started before I was ready. So that's why this topic is very personal for me. And I just want to talk about it because uh working with you know the clients that I work with, the adults, the youth athletes, and everybody that I work with and coach, it's always I'm waiting on something. I'm I'm I'm waiting for this opportunity, or something's holding me back, or I'm not certified, I don't have a license, I don't have a degree, I'm not finished school. No, you you need to start moving like the person you're becoming right now. You need to start surrounding yourself around people that are like-minded or that can support you on your journey and things like that. Because what happens is when you start moving like the person you wish to become, and you start acting like the person you wish to become, it provides clarity. You know, it provides expectations in what you need to do, and also it provides an understanding of, you know, do I really want to pursue this opportunity or this person or this this this profession or or or what I'm trying to become? Do I really want to pursue it? You know, and also it gives you clarity in your circle and those that support you and those that don't support you. So let me let me break something down for you really quickly. All right, the your future self is not built on your current behavior. All right, I'll say it again: the person that you wish to be, the goals that you're chasing, your future will never be dictated by you or your current behavior. All right, not your goals, not your vision board, not not what you want to say, but your future self is built off of your habits and what you do daily. So if you say you want to be disciplined, but you're hitting the snooze button, you're skipping workouts, you're avoiding, you know, hard conversations, and you're avoiding accountability, you're not going to become disciplined, right? You're just practicing the opposite. Most of the time, this is where people miss, right? They they they miss the identity shift, they focus more on the outcomes than focusing on the identity of the person that you're becoming. You don't chase confidence, you act like a confident person would in that situation. We can't chase leadership. You show up like a leader before you even have the title of whatever you're trying to become. You don't wait to be great. You know, you move like you're you're great already, and the greatness that you already have inside. So, again, I said earlier, if if you were the best version of yourself or in the position that you want to be, or whatever goal you have set, how would that person move today? And if that's a question that you can answer, and you can answer it honestly, and you begin to shift towards that answer and your actions show that you're shifting, then that question alone right there will change your life and it'll change your outlook on this process. For my athletes, you say you want to be a starter, you want the coach to give you more opportunities, you want exposure, you want to get recruited. Are you acting like it? Are you do you have a routine? Are you watching film? Are you doing the extra things to get ahead of the competition? Are you acting like a Division I athlete? Are you acting like a professional athlete if you're in college trying to go pro? These are the things that you have to self-analyze. Those of you that are chasing success or chasing the promotion or chasing further in your career? Are you acting like you're already further in your career? Are you acting like the position that you wish to hold? Are you acting like you deserve that promotion? You say you want to be respected as a leader. Are you, you know, do you hold yourself accountable? Do you carry yourself like a leader? You know, do you show up when it's inconvenient? Those are the things that leaders do. You know, in your everyday life, you say you want a better life. Do you act like someone that deserves a better life? Are you disciplined with your habits? Do you control your emotions? Do you take ownership in your decisions? Do others that are around you, do they view you as a leader because of the way you carry yourself? Because again, back to what I said in the beginning: words, words say who someone wants to be, but their actions prove who they are. So do your actions are in your circle and amongst your friends or wherever it may be, does it exude that I'm a leader, that I deserve a better life, that I that I'm pushing for better? Here's why people stay stuck, and here's why most people never get to the person that they're becoming or their potential of who they're trying to be. Simply, the secret is acting like the new version of yourself, honestly, it feels uncomfortable. You know, it feels fake at first, it feels forced, it feels like, you know, you're you're not there yet. But that's a good thing. Because growth and becoming someone different and becoming better doesn't feel natural until it becomes consistent, until you set that standard and that expectation daily. Most people quit in the awakened or the woke stage when they need to make change. The stage where they're trying to be disciplined, the stage where they're trying to think different, the stage where they're trying to move different. And it doesn't feel like you yet. So most people just stay comfortable and aren't willing to continue to act or develop into who they're becoming. Let me let me challenge you really quickly. Stop asking, what do I feel like doing today? Start asking yourself, what would the best version of me do today? And then go with that. Every single day. That's how standards are built, and that's how expectations are built. It's a new day. Act like the best version of yourself today. And when today's over, guess what? Do it again tomorrow. Not when you feel good, but when you even when you feel like not doing it. That's where your identity gets forged. Here's the powerful part in all of this. When you start acting like that version of yourself consistently, something shifts. Your habits change, your confidence in who you are and who you're becoming builds. Your environment responds to your constant energy and your that shift that you're on. When we talk about the habits, we talk about that habit playlist in a previous episode. And that's your system, right? The habits that you do daily and you put on repeat, that's your life system. So now you're no longer acting like you know who you're becoming, you actually are becoming that person. All right, because repetition builds identity, repetition builds confidence, and anything we want to get better at, or anything that we want to be great at, if you want to be the greatest version of yourself, best version of yourself, you gotta get your repetitions in doing that. So now that we've had this conversation, here's what I want you to do after this episode. No overthinking, no waiting, no, I'll start tomorrow. Pick one area in your life and ask yourself, what do I need to be in this area? Then today, move like that person, talk like that person, show up like that person, make decisions like that person. Because the truth is, you're not waiting to become that person, you're choosing whether or not you want to act like that person. Act like who you wish to be and watch your life rise to meet you. Thank you. Thank you, thank you for listening in. Again, if you haven't, like, comment, share, subscribe, follow, follow me on Instagram. All right. Constant motivation all day. If there's a topic that you want to talk about, contact me. You know, hit me up. I'm open to talk about anything or any anything that you guys want to talk about, you know, because all conversations are needed and all thoughts and everything will be respected and honored. So if there's anything you all want to talk about ever, hit me up. But again, thank you for joining me, and I'll see you on the next episode.